The Deciders

Found a pretty interesting show on HBO. It's a dating show, but the six contestants start out buck naked, and the *decider* takes a little bit longer to get there as she or he thins out the herd. It ran from 2016 to 2024, so if you want to go on it, you'll need a time machine. I have to say I was expecting cringe but didn't get it. Perhaps because all the participants were from the United Kingdom where- maybe it's just me- the people seem so much more civilized than us. Eh, it's probably the accents. Well, I'm forgetting the scouse... 

You know how dating is. I used to know myself before I retired from work and play. It's agonizing at best whether you are a man or a woman. Day in, day out people are attracted to each other, and both men and women surely spend a lot of time pondering what the objects of their eyes look like naked. So, why not reverse the process and start out with full, frontal nudity and take it from there? Well, interesting as that can seem, it doesn't necessarily help.

There is an actual date for the winner and their 'decider', just like on the old "Dating Game", and there is a follow up interview to see whether the couple stayed interested in each other or even stayed a couple. But just because you were chosen by the 'decider' doesn't mean you chose them. I don't know this for certain, but just because you were the chosen one didn't mean you had to go on the date. I think most all do because why not? It's free food and drinks. That's dating, right? I remember a comedienne asking: "Come on, girls; have you ever dated for food? You know you have!"

The way the show worked, the six people on stage were naked in a 'box' and the front of the box was first opened to reveal the lower naughty bits. The decider is clothed at this point, and the focus is on genitalia. OK. Seems a little too on point and hedonistically predatory, but well, is that not part of dating and mating too? The host of the show is a bi-sexual woman about town, and she lends her thoughts on what is revealed, based on her own desires. But it's not about her, and the decider has given the producers a list of physical attributes they prefer in a person, and they are encouraged to comment honestly. The camera gets up close and personal to the dicks and pussies. I was shocked at first. It's unusual to see bodies broken down into thirds like that. I have to admit that uncircumcised penises are pretty fucking scary. This is the UK and it's Europe adjacent so, that's like 99% of them. Technically, circumcision on males could readily be seen as genital mutilation. I don't want to get all up into that here, but it is weird to do it since you were born that way as a fella, but I bet both men and women are rather glad it's done. It's kind of an American thing, I guess and the rest of the world just lives with what they get. 

As is custom these days, most of the women are pretty bare down there. That's fine. Your body, your choice. As a Ferrerman, I prefer to see some representation up top- carpet and drapes. They don't even have to match. Again- your body. I totally got it when one lesbian decider with a full bush stated she got tired of the maintenance. To each their own. 

Bodies are important to men and women, whether their own or a perspective mates'. There's no getting around that. Again, as a Ferrerman, I'd be remiss if I didn't mention bottoms. I like 'em! As it turns out, women also like bottoms! Who knew? I fucking knew that! I know that because I worked with waitresses. I listened to them talk about boys. They brag nearly as much as us fellas do. They also lie a bit, sometimes to themselves. I think men and women both talk the talk of desiring a really big cock, but I've heard even female porn actresses (on YouTube) say that for real romance, for day in, day out sex, they don't want a too-big man. Surprisingly, 6 inches and, well, a little bit of girth is where it's at even for the pros from Dover. The BBC that everyone seems to fear and admire, is way too much. It's a good show for smaller men and curious women but once is probably enough. Go back and see my story about "Bozo" here. On the show they haven't shown any guy that was ridiculously big yet, but all the deciders seemed to base their final choices on more mainstream penises and, of course in the end, on looks. Isn't that just what real dating is all about? That and personality? 

As they move up the bodies in their reveals, it becomes a bit more like a clothed dating show. They are still naked, but it seems less about genitals. Only the last two subjects get to see the decider naked, but all along the other four who were rejected, get to briefly meet the host and decider. They have to make a choice to expedite the show, and several times there was clear regret when they saw the person they had summarily dismissed was actually all that and a bag of chips. And in the end when the two naked contestants and the decider are all in the buff, it's still up to the chosen one whether they actually won or not. Again- there is the formality of the agreed upon date, but no one says you have to have sex or see each other again. Attraction still works both ways. The follow-ups' a few weeks later are interesting. Sometimes they are solo. The other person moved on. The date didn't go well for one reason or another. Sometimes they met someone else after the show in the old-fashioned way. Such is clothed dating as well.

If there's a takeaway here, it might be that though this is a literal assbackwards way of doing it, it's all good fun, just the same. You're not destined to see every date naked in real life anyway, so it's interesting to start out that way. At least there is that. However, when it comes down to it, it is ultimately about intellectual attraction more than physical attraction, just like real life. That is the way it should be. Right? Well, if we're lucky.