Oral Arguments

 I've heard them all. "Oh, I don't do that! My husband/boyfriend used to make me do that!" well, OK, you don't have to do that. Nobody should have to do anything they don't want to do. I totally believe and support that, whether it is sex or anything else in life. If you wouldn't do it, why should you expect anyone else to do it? It is pretty much the Golden Rule, right?

Blow Jobs are in the news, mostly because recently released Epstein emails said that Trump blew a guy named "Bubba". People first thought it was Bill "Bubba" Clinton, mostly because they wanted to believe it was him because that's ironic and pretty funny. It wasn't the former President, the Epstein family said, but the interesting part of that was that they simply said it wasn't him, not that the BJ didn't happen. That is a way of doubling down, if you think about it. Nor did they deny that Putin and Netanyahu may well indeed have video of him performing (as they say) this "act". That would explain a lot about Trump's submission to these two tyrants. Probably all over the world, most every man wants to receive, but they don't really respect the giver, particularly if it's a man doing the giving. They may love the woman doing it, but they also may not respect her for doing it. We're talking individuals here. I dislike the broad brushstrokes from people who say that their purview is how race, gender- whatever- is viewed by their race, gender or whatever. No one person speaks for all of their race, their gender or their whatever. How the fuck could they? Yet we see and hear this every goddamned day. Stop doing that! There are 8 billion minds in the world and that means the odds are many are similar, but still, each one is unique. I'm not mansplaining now. I'm ferrermansplaining! These are my thoughts and opinions- not yours- and though they may be in the public domain, your mileage may vary with your own thoughts. So, put them out there yourself. Just don't speak for everybody, because you do not. 

Rival blogger, Maggie, once asked me what my thought process was when I write. Well, I guess I'd have to give it that Facebook relationship status response and say, "It's complicated". I never know exactly where I'm going when I begin writing. The fun is in getting there and then looking back at the trip. It either works or it doesn't, and that's fine. It really is what it is. 

But the topic was cocksucking. I truly don't care if you do it or don't as that is personal preference. By the same token, there are many men (who aren't French) who refuse to eat pussy. There was an episode of The Sopranos where it got out that Uncle Junior liked to go down on his longtime girlfriend. Evidently, he was good at it. He swore her to secrecy because if that revelation got out, his reputation among his fellow gangsters would be ruined. Tony explained that their collective thinking was that, if a guy would do that, they'd probably suck a dick too. Hey- not my logic, but I've heard this before from other cultures. In some societies, both may even be frowned upon. I don't know. Again, with the 8 billion people. From guys you might hear, "Bad head is better than no head at all". Let me take out my broad brush and say I bet most women don't say that about receiving a poor effort. I don't know that for certain though, so the brush is now going back in its shuck. Many women are judgmental and may suffer in silence. Well, that's not helpful. Educate, don't eradicate. 

 The point is, 🎶"It's your thing- do what you wanna do. I can't tell ya, who to sock it to". Those are words to dance by; however, you like to dance. It may not be precisely what The Isley Brothers had in mind, but it fits, and I think I got close enough. That's better than not trying.